“What other people think of you is none of your business.” –Regina Brett.
In this day and age, where we’re constantly force-fed thousands of images a day of perfect supermodels and brilliant entrepreneurs living their dream lives, it’s hard to take a step back sometimes, and to really count our own blessings.
Think about how self conscious we were in high school – where to sit at lunch, who to say hi to in the halls, what to wear, what to say, when to say it, constantly questioning ourselves in relation to everyone else around us, instead of discovering who we are and growing as individuals. What a waste of some pivotal years of our lives.
More than 10 years have passed since high school (so crazy), and though I can still recall and feel some of those high school memories (and nightmares), they have almost zero impact on my life today. I mean, think about an event that happened only a year or two ago – whether it was a falling out with a friend, a breakup, the huge zit on your face, the weird thing you said at the wrong time, or the job you didn’t get. Depending on the severity of it, you probably vaguely remember something, but that ache you once felt is probably long gone by now. It’s a memory you don’t even look up anymore.
When I was younger, I would get SO UPSET about people “talking about me behind my back.” (I’m a Leo, I can’t help it.) I would let it completely consume me. And every time this happened, my dad would always ask: “Do they feed you or f@&$ you?” I remember thinking how insensitive and harsh that question was, but now that I’m older – ding ding ding. Worry about making yourself and your loved ones proud. That’s it.
Stop concerning yourself with what those other kids think. You know – those acquaintances you see around town, that are on your social media, that you once knew or hung out with, the ones who mean nothing. They may gossip about you for a moment, but other than that – really ask yourself, what impact do they have on my life? The answer will almost always be none. And they don’t want to. The reality is that they are busy living their own lives.
Remember: “Winners focus on winning. Losers focus on winners.” –Shreena Chanda.
“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” –Eleanor Roosevelt.
Focus on your goals and successes more than you focus on your shortcomings or failures. Compare yourself today to where you were 5 years ago. Have you created change in your circumstances? What about in your mindset? Have you achieved anything that you once spoke of as only a dream or long-term goal?
Live your life. Live it as well as you possibly can. BECAUSE YOLO.